Party time

My aunty seems to feel that everything I do involves my friends. This is not true. It is just that my friends have children and we bring them to one another's birthday parties. As for our own birthdays, we do the same. So when Aunty J called and I said oh it's my friends birthday and we are going out for a meal. She was like it's always my friend this my friend that etc etc. Maybe I am missing something. Dunno ;-\

Anyway's yeah. It was my good friends birthday. She is godmother to one of my boys. These days I am not out a lot just as and when. I do make the effort for birthdays and events. Credit crunch recession or not, you can still enjoy yourself providing you know your limits.

We went to a very pricey Cantonese restaurant. Unlike Chinese takeaway that just smells of grease, the food was light and yummy. I do not eat pork and am weary of seafood. I am starting to try but still have my limits.

Everyone just ordered what they would like and then we just all dipped in and tried what we wanted. I went for Szechuan chicken , egg fried rice, chips and curry sauce. Order by others was, barbecue ribs, Singapore chow mien, Singapore fried rice, prawn cocktails, beef.

The pinot grigio rose' wine was beautiful and went straight to my head. I was sipping it like pop on an empty stomach. Everyone was feeling the effects of the wine.

The night ended going to a a few bars and dancing her bums off . The music at the last bar was sweet. It was a mixture of dancehall, garage, hip hop, R&B and old skool. I can still whine and show dem young gal how to move to the beat.

We all enjoyed ourselves.

Focus on me and what I want

You know my life has been full of people telling me what they feel is right for me. Yet my opinion is not right for them. I give up sometimes. It just goes in one ear and out of the other. Especially if you are nagging me. You have your opinions and so do I.

Some friends have turned their back on brothers and are telling me the materialistic reasons why doing so is so good. Me being me, I am like "there are good decent brothers out there". So you know just because you have gone for the rough please do not swipe all of them with the same brush. I have two sons to bring up and backside I am not going to allow anyone to pre-determine who they are by the colour of their skin. You love who you love and that all there is to it.

Rant over. I might write a thought provoking piece on that but will see. Anyway I have been thinking about what I like to do and need to do. So firstly I need to do a course and complete it. I need to get healthy and start listing what I eat. I am kind of addicted to the dummies series of books. I have 'Nutrition for Dummies'. I believe if I start reading it again I can educate my mind into making healthier choices. My friend loss loads of weight and she agreed with me. I may not eat loads I just choose quick fixes.

Also I have now decided to seriously setting up my own business. I doing my research at the moment. To fit in with my life it would be an online business venture. I am also going to try and add pictures of my makeup looks on this blog. I buy so much I might as well share. Oh by the way. I went to christening and bought 3 Barry M dazzle eye shadow dust. It was on offer in Superdrugs 3 for £9.99. The colours just matched my dresses accent so much. I just love eye shadow. Purple is now my second favourite eye shadow colour after green. Gold is third.

I am done with negative people. I already know what is wrong in my life, what situations are not good for me. People just need to understand I am the only one living my life and only I can do me. I am working on the inner me, the spiritual me. I am just going to make sure that I take care of me really.

PS - My addictions seem to be eye shadow and books. Trying to cut down on those. Lip glosses are soon to be added to that list but I have more restraint. I was so tempted today to buy L'oreal lip gloss that was just so pink and sparkly it was calling my name. I put it back on the shelf and went and got the Pampers I went in the shop for in the first place.

weird things

I was adding stuff to my blog got carried away. Now my blog list and widgets have disappeared but they are still on my template. I have deleted the extra stuff but my page is missing stuff. mmmm I have no idea what to do now. So sorry if your links are not showing but i am trying to resolve this.

edit: everything is working fine now.
anyways i do need so new stuff to brighten up this blog. any suggestions please leave a comment.

Urbanitez Magazine

My friend has gone after her dreams and has put together what the Midlands needed. A magazine dedicated to entertainment in the midlands. It also covers lifestyle and culture. And did I mention that I wrote the beauty article for the debut issue that came out this month November. I am told that I can continue to contribute.

My editorial writing does need tweaking but all in all I am in print. Ok so back to the magazine. It says its a free magazine about music, fashion, events and opportunities. The creator is Chantelle Williams wanted to address a need. Now there is a magazine that has events for not just the big cities but the little cities too. There was a launch party for the mag in Derby but I couldn't attend. I plan to make it to one of the events though.

Right now all I wrote about was some beauty basics that I learned from watching my favourite folk on YouTube and my favourite blogs as well as what I discovered for for myself. I have recieved good reviews from friends too.

I am feeling inspired. Maybe I need to write articles and then look to get my own magazine going finally for the umpteenth time.

Look out for your free copy of Urbanitez magazine. The December issue is not far away.

Yes we can indeed!

I know I am a bit late adding my twopence to this historic event. But what a momentous time in history we have just experienced. Lewis Hamilton finally crowned the F1 champion,which in my opinion he was robbed of last year. Then there is Mr Barack Obama who believed in himself and is now the 44th elected President in USA.

My twitter friends are mostly American and I have been able to read some thought provoking stuff leading up to the campaign. Oprah was right when she said that her support was not based on the fact that he was black (mixed race for you modernist folk). Though because he was offering a change that America needed.

The whole world held their breath but it was soon apparent as the votes were rolling in that America wanted the same change that the world desired. It is like the child has finally grown up. Of course there are many rampant issues that rage on in yanksville but this is a sign. I have never seen Americans so happy after an election. Have you?

I really thought McCain would win but at the same time did not want him too. He is just a bush clone. His VP choice Sarah Palin did not help his cause as at all. Michelle Obama has carried herself well. She speaks so elegantly and thoughtful. I say thoughtful as you can tell she is aware of the impact that words have.

It is a very inspiring moment too. I have never viewed my race as a barrier to get from A to B. Many will try to use that against you. It just means you have strive for success that lets them know you mean to handle your business and get yours. I understand sometimes it can make you struggle but never give up.

I am going to spend some time reading up a bit more on Mr Obama. He has two books , 'Dreams from my Father: a story of race and inheritance 'and 'The audacity of hope'. These are in my Amazon UK basket. I have 3 books I need to read first.

I was sent a text message by a good friend that said

Rosa Parks sat so Martin could walk

Martin walked so Obama could run

Obama is running so our children CAN FLY!

Our ancestors, our elders fought for this. So now Martin's Dream is a reality (almost). The UK does not have a dream ethos to betterment of oneself. It's the American way to turn your dreams into a reality. I pray that our youth who are out there killing one another put down their weapons and start dreaming a better life into existence for themselves.

Lets inhale and embrace this moment. Inauguration day is my birthday. I might just have to somehow take a trip overseas to full embrace the moment. Otherwise after my birthday meal I will watch it live on TV.

I am truly inspired. What about you?

Further reading

BBC news coverage on obama win

Guardian news coverage

New hope for America

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/barack-obama

M.A.C. and Bullring

Ok before anyone tells me I already know a few months ago I said that I wouldn't buy any more make-up however I think I just can't help myself. I took a drive to Birmingham to get the basics for myself.

The Bullring shopping centre is so beautiful. I just love the fact that it is easy to get around. The toilets are easy to find two. Useful for someone like me who has to remind her son, its toilet time. I will be going there again soon. They sell all the American treats that I grew up loving. Such as Reese's pieces, Hershey's and Oreo's. If the queue for the Krispy Kreme doughnuts was not long I would have bought a dozen.

Anyway my main reason for going Birmingham was to buy some MAC products. I bought foundation StudioFix in shade NW43. I would have thought that I needed one of their C shades or NC shades as I have yellow undertones. But it looks good. I also bought powder blush in shade 'format', pink bronze pigment, and black tile eye shadow.

So that brings my MAC collection from 2 items to 6. I was supposed to buy a mineralizer but could not remember the shade that my friend used on me. I will definitely look to buy that next pay day as I am so into light barely there coverage. The brush the MAC lady used felt so nice on my skin it had white tip. I think its the 187 brush. But at £25 too much money for me to spend. There is always Ebay.

I would love to win £1-5k shopping spree in Bullring so I could buy some makeup from MAC, Bobbi Brown, Bare Escentuals, Nars, Fashion Fair, Iman etc etc and then splurge on clothes and whatever else takes my fancy for me and my kids.

My challenge to self is to master the black smokey eye. I can do brown and purple really good so far.